Sergeant Gary Lee Cooley

  • Born: July 17, 1970
  • Died: September 12, 2013
  • Location: Kansas City, Missouri

D.W. Newcomer's Sons - Noland Road Chapel

509 South Noland Road
Independence, MO 64050

Tel. (816) 252-8900

Tribute & Message From The Family

Sergeant Gary Lee Cooley, 43 of Kansas City, Mo. passed away September 12, 2013. Funeral service will be 10:00am Wednesday, September 18, 2013 at Crown Pointe Assembly of God, 5950 NE Lakewood Way, Lee's Summit, Missouri. Burial with police honors will follow at Mt. Washington Cemetery. Visitation will be 6 to 8pm Tuesday, September 17, 2013 at the Church. Gary was born July 17, 1970 in Kansas City, Mo to John and Carol Cooley. He graduated from Englewood Christian Academy in 1988 as the Valedictorian of his class and received his Bachelors Degree in Business Management from Park University in 1998. He joined the Kansas City Missouri Police Department as a civilian employee August 1, 1988 and entered the Police Academy in September of 1992. He was commissioned as Police Officer on February 21, 1993 and promoted to the rank of Sergeant June 20, 1999. His children will receive a ring September 26, 2013 at a ceremony performed by the Kansas City Missouri Police Department honoring his 25 years of continued service. His children were his life and he spent most of his time involved in his family's activities. He is preceded into death by two grandfathers and one grandmother. He is survived by his three children; Courtney, Hanna and Caden all of the home. Parents; John and Carol Cooley. Grandmother; Betty Cooley. Two brothers; John Cooley Jr., Jason Cooley and his Fiancé; Jana DeShay. He is also survived by many others in his large loving family. Family and friends may leave messages of condolences at Arrangements: DW Newcomer's Sons Noland Road Chapel 816-252-8900

Condolence & Memory Journal


Police Constables Ivan Liew, Erin Emanuel and Seargent Karen Hodge wish to express our deepest condolences to Gary's family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all through these very difficult times.

From your friends at York Regional Police.

Posted by Ivan Liew - Markham, Ontario, Canada - Friend of brother Jason   October 01, 2013

I was very saddened to learn of Gary's passing. He had an infectious smile and was always willing to help anyone in need. He helped me immensely in the sergeant's promotional process, something I could never repay him for and will never forget. I would not be where I am today without the generosity of people like Gary. My thoughts and prayers are with his family. God bless you all.

Posted by Matt Lyons - Monroe, OH - Friend   September 20, 2013

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. May God embrace you all during this time and always.

Posted by Donetta Horky - Lees Summit, MO   September 19, 2013

God bless your family during this loss. I mentioned your family to our church tonight and we are in prayer for you. I know that it hurts, but God will turn those tears into joy through our Savior, Jesus Christ.

Posted by Pastor Martin D. McCoy - Mobile, AL - Friend of the family   September 19, 2013

It was fun having Gary as my coach. He was by far the best coach I've ever had. I wish he was still alive but life is sometimes unfair. -Josh Walker (part of Gary's soccer family)

Posted by Rob, Rachelle, Josh, Zach & Nik Walker - Lee's Summit, MO - Friend and Coach   September 19, 2013

Mr. & Mrs. Cooley & Family:
My daughter Uraya's broken when she heard of the passing of one of her very best friends (Gary). My heart was/is saddened as well...You all have & will be in my thoughts & prayers for a long time to come.

Posted by Rev. Judy B. Sanders-Batts    September 18, 2013

I am so very sorry for your loss and will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Posted by Tina Golden (DeMoss)    September 18, 2013

Dearest Cooley Family,
I can't begin to express the heaviness that I feel in my heart for the loss that you are experiencing...Gary was such a joy and blessing to all who knew him. He was an amazing father to his children and I know that they will miss him so much. His children are blessed to have had the example of such a great man in their lives. I can't imagine saying goodbye to a son, or even a brother...especially one as sweet as Gary. He was precious and he will be missed dearly. The only hope that we can hold on to during pain and loss, is to know that we have a promise to be together again. I pray that God gives you peace and comforts you from now, until you meet again. Our love and prayers go out to you all.

Posted by Natalie and Zach Norman    September 18, 2013

I will miss my friend, Gary. My heart is heavy for the Cooley Family and I pray that God eases their pain. We can say that someday we will all be together again in heaven. For Gary is in a better place because he is with our heavenly Father so let not your heart be heavy but give praise to our Lord...

Posted by Dolores Moore - Henderson, NV - Friend   September 18, 2013

Gary was a good officer and extremely pleasant to work around.

My sympathy goes out to all the family.
May he rest in peace.

Posted by John Leiker - Kansas City, MO - Past Co-worker   September 18, 2013

I'm so sorry to hear about Mr. Cooley's passing. From meeting him and hearing about him through my mom, he was such a nice, caring man.. You're all in our thoughts and prayers. God bless,

The Hickman Family

Posted by Lanessa Hickman - Lees Summit, MO   September 17, 2013

John, Carol & Family,

I am so sorry to hear of Gary's passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you all! May our Lord Jesus comfort you at this time!

Debbie Rogers

Posted by Debbie Taylor-Rogers - Independence, MO   September 17, 2013

Our condolescences for this tragic loss- please lean on your "F" Troop-Faith, Family, Friends

Posted by Steve & Jo Wilson - Lee's Summit, MO - friend   September 17, 2013

Gary was a good cop and a great workmate. His family should be very proud of him.

Posted by Mike Thoelke - Overland Park, KS - Co-worker   September 17, 2013

My prayers for God's peace and comfort to touch your hearts at this very difficult time, and God's Speed and Good Morning to Gary as he continues his invisible journey. May you find strength in knowing that even though he no longer walks among us, he is gloriously alive and one with God, and even death cannot separate us from those we love. I salute your service to the communities you have given your life to, and pray that all will know how blessed we are that he was here.

Posted by Rev. Dr. Ed Golden - Blue Springs, MO - Chaplain BSPD & MPOA   September 17, 2013

Our hearts break for a man we were only blessed to know for the last 3 years. Gary came into our life through Jana and we are all richer for it. A smile and whit that could light up a room...many memories, many laughs and now many tears. God be with each of you as you walk this tough road. Courtney, Hannah and Caden your father loved you beyond words. Jana and Riley what a light you were in his life, he was so happy he found you. Hold your faith close and your memories closer. God be with each of you. Much love my friend.

Posted by Keri & Jim Lysaghat - Lee's Summit, MO - Friend   September 17, 2013

My thoughts are prayers are with you all. I am truly sorry for your loss.

Posted by Michael - Prairie Village, KS - Friend   September 16, 2013

With Deepest Sympathy

Please know that you are
in our thoughts and prayers,
and we are here for you
as you mourn the loss
of you loved one.

Posted by Dr. Sarita Graham - Gladstone, MO - KCSATRS Coalition   September 16, 2013

Words can't say how sorry I am so may God bless you, and your whole family

Posted by victor lackey    September 16, 2013

I am so sorry To hear this News. May God give you all much comfort. I will be praying for you!

Posted by Jerri McCoy - Mobile, AL - Friend of Courtney   September 16, 2013


Gary was such a warm and friendly person. We always felt blessed to have his support here at the downtown probation/parole office, and not just professionally. Gary had a great gift at blending personal and professional and he was so much fun to chat with as well as work with. I believe I speak for everyone in our office when I say I will miss him very much.

Posted by Jon Tintinger - kansas city, MO - professional associate   September 16, 2013

Gary was a pleasure to know, and always poised and thoughtful. He made everyone feel special.

Posted by Ruth Austin - MO - Prob & Parole Committee   September 16, 2013

Tysen truly enjoyed his 1st year of competitive soccer because of Gary. He was a good coach and a great man. We will continue to keep the family in our prayers.

Posted by Kina Gunnels and Tysen Brennan    September 16, 2013

We are so sorry for your great loss,John,Carol,John Jr.,Jason and entire Cooley family! OUR LOVE AND PRAYERS are constantly with u and Gary's children.

Even though we had not seen Gary in many years, we remember him as a fine young man, always smiling, always kind.

God's peace is truly carrying you all and we know he will continue to e your comfort for years to come until we're all together gain...forever.

Holding you all in our hearts,

Posted by Rich & Dana Avila - Blue Springs, MO - Family Friends   September 16, 2013

I am so saddened to hear of Gary's sudden passing. This world has truly lost a great man, son, brother and father. There are no words I can say to truly comfort you at this time,but please know you all are in my constant thoughts & continuous prayers. I will remember Gary as the free spirited carefree guy who always had a smile on his face and who could always light up the room. Keep your memories close and speak of him often and he will live on in your hearts daily. Much love & many prayers!

Posted by Jill Morgan-Gervy - Grain Valley, MO - friend of family   September 15, 2013

I can't remember a day that Gary didn't have a smile to greet me. John, Carol, John Jr., Jason, Terri and children my heart goes out to you all. John and Carol, you both raised some remarkable boys! Gary touched so many lifes. He truly was a gift from God. My thoughts and prayers are with you all during this difficult time. Love to you all, Lynda

Posted by Lynda Hacker-Bristow - Kansas City, MO - Family Friend   September 15, 2013


I did not personally know the family. Just the friend of a friend. But I wanted to offer prayers to all the friends and family! The loss of a good man is something that affects in ripples and is a loss to the whole community.

Posted by jinnie hampton - Lee's Summit, MO - Friend of a friend   September 15, 2013


Many prayers for the family. Jana and kids, we love you and constantly praying for your healing.

Posted by Misty Smith Raper - Denver, CO   September 15, 2013

My thoughts and prayers are with Gary's family, and especially my friend, Jana. God bless you and your family.

Posted by Angela Watson - Marietta, GA - Friend of Jana   September 15, 2013

Words cannot express the emptiness we felt when learning of your loss. As his school principal, Gary was a "special" person with whom I shared a lot of time when he needed someone to listen. Gary leaves a host of relatives and friends to share his "graduation" into Glory. I am so glad that I knew him and that he knew Jesus Christ. God Bless

Posted by Don annd Luanne Bllythe - 110 Westside Drive, Winchest, KY   September 15, 2013


John, Carol, and Family:

You have been in our prayers. We ask God to give you strength through this. I remember you all as a perfect family. Full of love for each other. I always admired that.

I know that you are trusting in the love and mercy of our Savior, Jesus Christ.

God Bless You All,

Paula & Dennis Madden

Posted by Paula & Dennis Madden - raymore, MO - Family Friend   September 15, 2013

Sergeant Gary Lee Cooley thank you for your service as a Kansas City Policeman. You will be missed from the force. My prayers go out to the rest of the family. May God Bless all of you through these rough days ahead in the loss of the loved one.

Posted by Alicia Hessenflow - Independence, MO   September 15, 2013


My condolences to Gary's family. We have been friends for many years. We have lost a loved one, but have gained an angel in heaven. Rest in peace and rejoice in the love of our Lord.

Posted by Raul O. Guerrero - Lee's Summit, MO - Friend   September 15, 2013


So sorry for your loss. Praying for you all.

Posted by Mark and Donna Massey, Hannah and Matt - Pleasant Hill, MO - Friends from church   September 15, 2013


Praying for the entire family-so sorry for your loss. Blessings and may God's peace surround you all at this time.

Posted by Patricia Corbitt - Huntsville, AL - Friend of Jana DeShay   September 14, 2013

As I write these words, I remember the years of friendship we shared. Growing up with family holidays and birthdays. I think back to the beautiful home that Uncle Dusty and Aunt Terry had downtown with the dobermans and then flash forward a few years to one of the first holidays in the "pink house". I was sure that if I had to eat one more "creative turkey or ham dish" I was going to be ruined for life and have to become a vegetarian! Do you all recall the "indecent" with Gary and me in Northtown.. I do not recall all the details but our "KCPD Police Family" trumped theirs!
I am beyond heart-broken about the loss of my long time friend. I am very proud to be associated with the man, father, and Police Officer that encapsulate Gary. My deepest heartfelt condolences to his entire family and the KCPD Police Department, for everyone has suffered a great loss. I regret that due to my current military obligations that I can not be there in person to say "see you on the other side" to Gary and to wrap my arms around Aunt Terry and the rest of the family. Please remember that I love you all very much and you will remain in my heart forever!

Posted by Monique Guerrero - Ft Bragg NC, NC - Long time family friend   September 14, 2013


I'm sorry for your loss.

Posted by Kay Meyers - Hoff - Raymore, MO - Friend of family (Terri Davis)   September 14, 2013


Words cannot express my love for the Cooley family and my grief in this time of such devastaing loss. We are praying for you all and trusting in God's perfect plan and timing. Gary was such a wonderful man and I will miss him dearly. Psalms 147:3 He heals the broken heartened, binding up their wounds.

Posted by Tammy Beebe (Hoskins) - Mililani, HI - Extended Family   September 14, 2013

Very saddened by the news. Our thoughts and prayers are with your family.

Posted by Kaylleen and Rick Upton    September 14, 2013

Dear Jason, John, and family.

My thoughts and prayers are with you while you say good bye and process the grief of losing your brother, son, father. Gary lived his life to the fullest and was an inspiration to those of us who knew him. He will be missed by many.



Posted by Chastity Brown - Lee's Summit, MO - Family friend   September 14, 2013